• Marissa Bognanno

11 Powerful Ways to Call in Your Twin Flame

Let's not waste any time bringing you some L O V E, my friend. Read on, try these practices that have helped me and my clients bring in love, and if you want to amp it up even more my Insight Timer course The Secret to Effortless Manifestation is a must-listen for learning how to receive with joy!

1) Quality List

Write a very detailed list of all the things you want in a person, right down to their laugh and how they smell and what you talk about at night. Get really specific! It helps the Universe know what to bring you. You can't just say, "a nice person," that's too broad! Ask for what you want, and make sure you do so with utter faith that it's possible. You can't look at the list and think that this person doesn't exist. Instead, read it with the conviction that they are out there! Also - keep this exercise light and fun.

2) Couple Appreciation

Once when I was working at a restaurant, every couple that would come in who really seemed to love each other would catch my eye. I would look at them and feel pure appreciation for their love. I would feel genuinely happy for them! I would go over in my mind repeatedly how sweet they were and how awesome the feeling must be to be out with your person. I will never forget one couple in particular; they were older, sitting on a bench, holding hands and eating an ice cream. I spent the whole day really appreciating them and talking about them with other people. The point here is not to be envious but to instead use it to your advantage and allow it to raise your vibration to that love place!

3) What's There Already

It's important to recognize the love in your life that exists already. The attitude of, "I already have this," tells the energies around you that this isn't anything new or weird or different for you. This makes the whole thing less of a big deal, so you worry about it less. For instance, see all of the people who love you authentically and think about them often. My mom loves me, my friends love me, I have all these experiences in the world with people who show love for me, etc.

4) Daydream, Often

Daydreaming is the best way to use creative visualization. When you daydream you literally see in your mind's eye that which you wish to create. So, get in there like a kid in middle school math class! I do this on walks in the woods. You can imagine in full detail walking with your partner and feel like they are there with you in the moment. This sends out the vibration that you have what you want already and the Universe will match that with something physical because it's law. Like attracts like.

5) Ritualize It

Create little rituals to call in your love. Light a candle and sit on your bed with your oracle cards and speak to the Universe in a sacred manner. Ritual and ceremony are powerful because during those moments you are so focused on what you want to create and believing in the possibility that it can come to you. It helps your mind to go to a place of strength as opposed to lack. Anything goes here, so do what feels right for you!

6) Stop talking about it not happening

This is something that I learned from Abraham Hicks and it's one worth remembering for anything you want to create in your life. When you find yourself obsessively going over in your mind the thing you don't have, why you don't have it and where the heck it's going to come from -- that's not going to create it for you. On the contrary, it's going to set you back. So, the best thing to do here is to just get your mind off the subject. Slap yourself into another thought à la Cher in Moonstruck, "snap out of it!"

7) Learn Something

Similarly to getting off the subject, learning something new will take your mind to another place when you're spiraling into lack. What's better than curiosity and the joy of exploring the new? You're a passionate, intelligent, interesting person for goodness sake! Finding love isn't about completing yourself; you are already complete and already have everything you need within you. When you expand your mind, you realize this and it helps to take the edge off of meeting someone who will provide your happiness for you.

8) Talk to Your Future Person

Have full blown conversations in your head with your love. Do it out loud! Imagining these conversations will make you excited about the person arriving and all the fun you could have together. This tells your body and mind that it's happening now, and it's possible for you! It gets you up in that vibrational place of what you want.

9) Try less

When you're trying too hard, you're often trying too hard. I know, that's infuriating, but it's true. All of these tips are great, but if you're forcing them or making yourself do them because you think they will bring you something, then it's not going to work. The point is to learn how to feel better about how your life is going, so if you feel yourself forcing or trying, take a step back and go to step 6.

10) Look for the good

Deliberately comb through your life and find the places in which everything is working out perfectly. Do this right before bed and see how nice it is to drift off to sleep thinking about how good your life is. When you get to the point where you find yourself thinking or saying, "You know what, things are really good right now, I don't care what happens because all of this is great," that's the moment when the person arrives or you get what you've been asking for.

* most importantly* 11) Listen to the Nudges

You may suddenly have this feeling - like a push - in the midst of all these exercises and practices. The messages from your Self are clear, resonant and you cannot ignore them! The nudges are so important when you're trying to call something in. Your soul knows what you want and knows the path to take you there so please, listen to whatever is making you move.


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